There is a song I like very much although it's not that popular. It is performed by a girl who sang some years ago Come along, come along with me... So, this girl has another song which I like even more. It is, well....a love song. But if one puts the love context aside and just listens to the refrain – the wonderful words: I fought my heart but my heart won, I fought my heart but my heart won.... It’s a total love tragedy and drama at first sight! :) But I listen to it from another point of view which lets me look at it from a different perspective...
Do we listen to our hearts? Or, if we take one step back – do we know how to listen to our hearts? I’ll leave the ‚learning’ part aside for now. Let’s assume we have attained a level when we know what out heart desires. The logical question then would be, do we give to it what it needs?’. And if not, then why not? Inhibitions? But why?
I started to write this due to a conversation I had with a friend of mine a few days ago, although as I think back, I had this conversation so many times with friends of mine. Her problem: sex on the first date. My God, such a problematic topic to so many girls I have talked to! These conversations have always swirled around: What? How's that? What would it lead to? What happens if he leaves me after the first f*ck?. I would say, Well, anything is possible if you look at it this way.
Let’s get out of the common ‘he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not’- matrix and look at it from another angle – from the angle of awareness and maturity. We talk here about self-consciousness, self-awareness, self-confidence. And what is more important – clarity about questions such as Do I know myself, do I know who I am?, Do I know what I want?. To me a self-aware and self-confident person, whether they be a man or a woman, would not even think about how to act in such a situation if the right moment has come and the vibe is there.
Sex, dear boys & girls, is a vibration! Sex is a resonance with the other person, with his/her body, with his/her soul, with his/her impulses and emotions. Have fun - at this very moment, here and now. If you are both aware of that fact, if you have reached the point where you absolutely consciously realize the nature of sex, understand its beauty, fascination and spell, then no questions are needed. There is just he and she, here and now...and the vibrations! Things are simple! (you can look a few posts down) The whole "drowning into love dramas" has no place here. Here we have two self-aware human beings who do not just have sex with each other but use it as one of many other ways in which self-aware people communicate with each other when the vibe is there. Any other deeper reflection on the subject would rather mean that at least one of you is not clear about his/herself. And I do not mean that you do not know what you want from life or your potential partner, but rather that you are just all mixed up.
So, remember - no matter if we talk about sex on the first date or any other situation in which you doubt following your heart: the ‚concept’ of „My heart won“ does not imply a lack of responsibility or a refusal to take one. It doesn’t mean to drift downstream without any inhibition, according to the seize-the-moment-at-any-price principle. To let your heart win means you need to seize the moment, the vibration and the impulse and let yourself be completely aware of who you are. Then everything else can be left behind...
There is no need fighting your heart when the process of being self-aware takes its normal course...
Do we listen to our hearts? Or, if we take one step back – do we know how to listen to our hearts? I’ll leave the ‚learning’ part aside for now. Let’s assume we have attained a level when we know what out heart desires. The logical question then would be, do we give to it what it needs?’. And if not, then why not? Inhibitions? But why?
I started to write this due to a conversation I had with a friend of mine a few days ago, although as I think back, I had this conversation so many times with friends of mine. Her problem: sex on the first date. My God, such a problematic topic to so many girls I have talked to! These conversations have always swirled around: What? How's that? What would it lead to? What happens if he leaves me after the first f*ck?. I would say, Well, anything is possible if you look at it this way.
Let’s get out of the common ‘he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not’- matrix and look at it from another angle – from the angle of awareness and maturity. We talk here about self-consciousness, self-awareness, self-confidence. And what is more important – clarity about questions such as Do I know myself, do I know who I am?, Do I know what I want?. To me a self-aware and self-confident person, whether they be a man or a woman, would not even think about how to act in such a situation if the right moment has come and the vibe is there.
Sex, dear boys & girls, is a vibration! Sex is a resonance with the other person, with his/her body, with his/her soul, with his/her impulses and emotions. Have fun - at this very moment, here and now. If you are both aware of that fact, if you have reached the point where you absolutely consciously realize the nature of sex, understand its beauty, fascination and spell, then no questions are needed. There is just he and she, here and now...and the vibrations! Things are simple! (you can look a few posts down) The whole "drowning into love dramas" has no place here. Here we have two self-aware human beings who do not just have sex with each other but use it as one of many other ways in which self-aware people communicate with each other when the vibe is there. Any other deeper reflection on the subject would rather mean that at least one of you is not clear about his/herself. And I do not mean that you do not know what you want from life or your potential partner, but rather that you are just all mixed up.
So, remember - no matter if we talk about sex on the first date or any other situation in which you doubt following your heart: the ‚concept’ of „My heart won“ does not imply a lack of responsibility or a refusal to take one. It doesn’t mean to drift downstream without any inhibition, according to the seize-the-moment-at-any-price principle. To let your heart win means you need to seize the moment, the vibration and the impulse and let yourself be completely aware of who you are. Then everything else can be left behind...
There is no need fighting your heart when the process of being self-aware takes its normal course...
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